"As I look at my life, it necessarily does not make a lot of sense. One common theme that comes up is perseverance. I have found that life slaps you with situations and challenges. As a Kaur, I've found my task has been to overcome obstacles and to turn the difficulties into healing…to turn things into the positive. Growing up, I was really shy and felt I couldn’t voice my true opinions and feelings. I think it was because I was isolated and unsure of why my parents sent me to live with my grandparents in a different city. I felt abandoned and angry, which led to being insular. My parents would send me care packages and show their love in multiple ways, but it wasn’t material items like cute dolls that I needed. I needed them. Looking back now, from the perspective of a mother and find they were trying to create a stable environment for me. They worked long hours and moved often and decided creating stability for my early years was important. When returned to live with my parents in my pre-teens, we moved to so many new houses and cities. It was challenging always being the new kid at school. It was during high school that I met my husband and we were free to date and spend time together. It was during this time that early signs of abuse showed up. After marriage and when I was pregnant more pronounced physical incidents occurred. More so, emotional and verbal abuse were prevalent. My voice, what was remaining, was silenced. I left and lived separately with my son for months, while my husband received counselling. We later reconciled and then sadly he passed away eight months later in a motor vehicle accident. During that same timeframe, my father passed away. I think the biggest lie we tell ourselves is that there’s no hope for ourselves. This lie tells you that you’ve done everything possible, and it’s time to just throw in the towel and give up. But if one backs away and looks at your situation from a different perspective, you might see things differently. What you’ve attempted to do may have produced little or no results and left you in this hopeless state, but what you’ve done may have been the opposite of what you need to do. Healing is a choice. We have to continue making healing choices in order to experience the gifts, life has for us. The choice to persevere is never an easy one. It’s only made by those tired of living life as they always have, and finally want things to be different. My way to persevere was through fitness. I relied on it to help cope with abuse and then to heal myself when two important men in my life passed away. I will admit, I can’t recall the first three years after their passings. When I started focusing on fitness, I realized I had a heart beat and had to live my life responsibly for my son. I harnessed fitness to create normalcy in my life. It provided a constant and also unleashed a passion for fitness and helping others. I opened my fitness studio two years ago and serve other women. This is my seva. It is a fitness facility, but really the purpose is to change lives and provide support. The focus is to give people a sense of abundance. I feel my role in life as a Kaur is to focus on giving back to my small community through fitness and in raising my son to be the best human he can be by loving and being respectful of nature, people, and animals."