“Kaur is part of all facets of my life. It resonates the most for me when its framed as overcoming obstacles and engaging with family, career, and health. The name Kaur gave me comfort and identity as I was growing up. I went to Punjabi school and being a Kaur provided a sense of community and belongingness during my teenage year. When I went to a non-Panjabi high school, I turned to my identity as a Kaur and knowing my roots helped overcome feelings of being different. Being a Kaur gave me strength.
My main focus and purpose in life is health, fitness andto challenge myself everyday. I like breaking physical and mental barriers to become better every day. I find it amazing to gain strength, meaning my strength a month from now will be different than today.
Growing as the youngest with two older brothers had some advantages. My brothers played sports, so I learned what being competitive entailed. During my high school years, my dad didn’t approve of me playing basketball, at least at first. For me it was natural to do exactly what my brothers were doing. I didn’t give up and I didn't’ accept the barrier I felt. I challenged my dad, he softened to the idea, and I continued playing basketball.
The power of health and fitness fascinated me. I quickly figured out that externally anything could be happening, but during a workout or anything fitness related it was me who was empowered to set the direction of what was happening. I fell in love with how fitnesschallenged me and loved how I felt.
Even during university, I kept at my training. I started Jiujutsu, Muay Thai, and worked with a weight trainer to gain experience. These were complicated arts to master, I am no expert, but I am still working at them and each day is new challenge.
I am an accountant by trade, but really fitness and training are my real passions. In 2005, when I was deciding on a career, I didn’t have enough information and I wasn’t able to connect how this area of fitness could be a career path to take. Partly it could have been social or cultural pressures to choose a career that was known and vetted to be a good choice. If I could do it all over again, I would probably be a chiropractor, physical therapist, or something along those lines.
After a few years of training, I realized no one is representing Sikh women in the world of fitness. No one is there to help them, motivate them to be fit, and really there is no outlet for them of how to train and what to eat. So I started an Instagram page to help others learn about training and being healthy.
I create content focused on women and recently held a few bootcamps to help women learn more about fitness and healthy eating. I hope women who see my Instagram page find inspiration and help them see they can do this too. Its important to me to educate women, especially Sikh women to include self-care in their life. Schedules are crazy, making the right food decisions, including fitness, and time for yourself is important.
My parents love what I am doing. At first they didn’t understand it, it took time to educate them from thinking that females don’t do this. As the years have progressed, they have changed their views as well. My brothers, well they wouldn’t expect anything else from me. They played sports and instilled in me how fitness can help overcome barriers.
Then there is my husband, he is seriously the best person I could have asked for in life. He is supportive, encouraging, and motivates me to do more. He’s usually the person behind the camera and is always thinking of ideas for me to try. There is no pressure to have a family yet and he has his own goals too. There shouldn’t be this exclusive focus on having a children and not pursuing anything else in life.
I feel that there is this stigma around women doing too much. There are people I know that don’t support my fitness endeavours. There is this mentality that women should not be out there, instead they should sit quietly and not make a difference. I find that strange. I want to break that stigma."