"Kaur to me means having strength. Being aware and focused on self-development. Having self-confidence with who you are, sharing yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin. I think part of that is being physically and emotionally content with whomever you are.
I started gymnastics when I was five years old. I started because of my cousin, who later stopped. I was really shy and didn’t have the traditional gymnast body. I had to work that much harder to gain flexibility and strength. It began as recreational and later turned competitive. It helped me gain confidence, and gave me a focus in my teens. I later competed in All Star cheerleading, and at the Cheerleading Worlds Championships. I competed provincially, nationally, and internationally.
The sport takes a huge toll on your body and I chose to retire from gymnastics due an injury. That led to shadow coaching and then becoming a fully certified coach. I have been coaching for almost ten years now and never stop learning. To challenge myself further, I took up competitive cheerleading. It is nothing like TV or in movies. It was gratifying to complete the goal of competing in the world championships. These sports, especially at the higher level don’t have any or very few Punjabi girls. Charting these unfamiliar paths was part of a self discovery process.
Doing things outside of traditional paths, lights fire inside of you to uncover parts of yourself, to yourself. To gain understanding and become a better version of yourself. This is important. For me, this applied to spirituality too. My parents were religious growing up, they provided some framing. But it wasn’t until I read a book on Guru Nanak, I was kind of obsessed with it, I made some connections about questions and ideas.
It was around this time, about four years ago that I met my boyfriend. His grounding and connection to Sikhi made me even more curious. For him, religion and spirituality are like breathing. We would have conversations about faith and spirituality. He would share stories about his own connection to Sikhi. All of this, made me think of myself and my journey.
I believe surrounding yourself with people who share these energies and vibrations is important. Those who are focused on how they fit into the grander scheme of things, makes you become more aware. It opens your mind, helps you expand.
For me in this journey, I wanted to expose who I was and do me. Craft more, meditate, participate in workshops. Do things that would help me. Be around people who uplift my soul.
Its interesting this full circle experience now has me sharing what I have learned. The young female athletes I coach, they range in age from 10 to 17 years old and are both Punjabi and non-Punjabi. They have their own questions, one girl who was non-Punjabi, asking me to explain the Sikh religion. What is spirituality? This amazes me because at age 13, I wasn’t even thinking along these lines. I think it also offers the Punjabi girls a sense of connection. I see them nodding their heads, finally having someone say things they have been struggling with, relating to them on their level."