“I believe I relate to the concept of Kaur through my boldness, my courage, and my acceptance. Kaur represents to me spiritual connection. The set values I live in life are very similar to Sikhism. I believe in contributing to the world in the best way each person envisions and personal growth is a result of the inner journey. These ideas combine and project themselves through respect of the universe and the ecosystem. This spiritual essence leads to the notion that I can be the best human within my ability and contribute to great impact in the world.
My journey in corporate leadership focuses on the human element in how we show up to work— the good, the bad, and the ugly. In a traditional corporate mindset, we are supposed to leave our problems at home. While I was contemplating my career, my move to the island, and going through a divorce, living life for other people and what they wanted for me, I was losing this connection.
I believe this connecting is front and centre when we are born and then there are pivotal moments when it gets lost. While I was going through my issues, my team who reported to me, lost that connection. This experience had me thinking why do we continue to live in this way and think this situation lives in closure. These feelings and unhappiness, we carry all this around and it becomes heavy. It becomes like a costume. Two years ago, I thought about this patchwork costume. Each patch was a story I told myself, stories that I started to believe about myself. These stories, or rather patches, were knit together.
For me the costume was getting heavy. It was zippered to my neck and it was not complete without physical ailments like hypertension and diabetes. This time was a chance for me to look around and contemplate why I was in this state.
My biggest epiphany was one word — CHOICE. It impacts every aspect of our life and it fascinates me. Every moment in life, we have a choice and we have to be held accountable for our own misery. We create these monsters. Its important to know your mental constructs and what values and ideas are no longer serving you. Lastly its important to check in who defines certain things for you.
I assumed, leaving a 20 year marriage would ruin my family and children’s lives. I was wrong and this key insight helped me to determine what pattern I was playing and living out. My advice for anyone is to be bold enough to step outside of that pattern. For me, a gauge is that when I sleep at night am I able to say, “did I do the best I could have done today”.
Post divorce, my ex husband and I had agreed we wouldn’t our dirty laundry to anyone. In the absence of sharing our divorce story. people were making up wild stories. This experience made me realize that we only have to answer to ourselves. I did the best I could with that experience. For me, it was about checking in with myself of not doing anything that I couldn’t look into the mirror about. The reaffirmed the importance to drop the stories.
Joy to me is a fascinating concept. Happiness and sadness come and go. I don’t believe in happiness, I just believe we are vehicles for the life journey. We are going to come across good and bad experiences. When we delve into this further, throughout this journey and what fuels our vehicle is joy. I believe that joy is a neutral graceful place, where we can remain calm.
There is nothing we can’t handle. We always do. Your heart expands and your rib cage opens up — that graceful place, regardless of what is happening, is directly connected to acceptance. Everything is divinely guided — every moment.”