“Who would have thought watching a Hindi movie (Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge) would give me the courage to finally ask my parents to go backpacking through Europe. It had always my dream to travel to Europe. And after the movie, it seemed like perfect timing to ask. They agreed to let me go, but in return I had to agree to not only focus on my career but to get serious about finding a nice Sikh boy and settling down. After traveling to France, Spain, Italy, Switzerland and Germany and having the time of my life, I returned home inspired to start my own business.
I did remember I had a deal to fulfill with my parents, which led me to signing up for online dating on Sikhnet and then finding the only white Sikh man on the dating site. All this has led to the most adventurous life.
Without a doubt being a Kaur gives me a certain confidence as there are so many strong Kaurs in my family. The women in my family are opinionated and not shy to share our viewpoints or to express our individuality. For me, being a Kaur allows me to know who I am and where I come from. The perfect way for me to convey how I view a confident Kaur is a popular image that I have seen on the internet of a kitten looking into the mirror and seeing the reflection of a tiger. That is the confidence and strength that I have - and I believe that all Kaurs have. I honestly wish I could bottle up this self-esteem and give it to young girls of any faith or background.
This strength and confidence has allowed me to be self-made entrepreneur and I cannot imagine another career option for me. I try not to put any limits on myself and focus on pushing forward as a person and entrepreneur. One of the main ideas behind Sikhism that resonates with me is that every person is equal; and with our religion starting with the abolishing of a caste system means that every person has the opportunity to grow and become anything they want without limits. I love this idea. It’s not about finding yourself, we know who we are. Sikhism for me is about determining our own path and becoming whatever we want.
I really think this perspective has a lot to do with my childhood and how I was raised. I remember the stories my parents shared with me and my siblings when we were young. The stories were about overcoming challenges and obstacles and creating a new life in a new country. I understand now why I didn’t hesitate opening up my first venture — an airbrush tattoo company. This is something that is definitely non-traditional for a Kaur, but I had seen a similar business in Europe and was determined to be one of the first to bring this European trend to Canada. I now own three businesses, I am passionate about my life, and with my Caucasian Sikh husband by my side, I can honestly say, I’m not afraid of doing things differently.
I personally, am not religious in the traditional sense, I don’t feel the pull to visit the Gurudwara every Sunday. In the same light, I admire how much faith my parents have in our religion. It is the cornerstone of their lives and for them, like so many others, temple hopping in India is how they want to vacation. It is truly inspiring. For me, when I do go to the temple, my favourite part is doing Seva in the kitchen…where everyone is working together side by side and without any differences for a common goal of serving others. We come together as equals and when we leave, we can aspire to reach any goal or dream. Equal and without limits – that is what being a Kaur and a Sikh means to me.”