"Being a Kaur involves being a role model, a mother, and string of so many other roles that lies in fundamentally being a good person. The sad thing is that women’s rarely get that much recognition for everything they do. In my opinion, Sometime women can be women’s worst enemies. There is this internal strife with women, focused on comparison and pushing women down. This needs to stop. There is room for everyone, we must encourage one another. We need to be role models for one another, as there is so much to do and accomplish.
As someone who has worked in media, I have had people, especially women share their stories and ask for help like connecting with resources. At times I am anguished with the details I hear, it saddens me, but I am willing to listen and help if I possibly can. Just sharing their stories sometimes is what is needed.
I came to Canada as a single woman with a Ph.D in Political Science (Gender Equality in Politics) in hand. My parents, who were well educated, were supportive of me pursuing higher education. They constantly heard concerned remarks from community members about allowing girls to pursue more education would provide opportunity to bring shame on the family or that I was getting beyond eligible marriage age. These types of micro-aggressions are roadblocks for so many women, especially Kaurs face. My parents didn’t buy into it, they continued to support me. My thesis focused on the new legislations amendments at the time in relation to women, education, and power roles, like Sarpanch. A big focus was me in interviewing and understanding the complexities about the decades of gender differences and how there was a fear of change. I had heard rumblings about the Canadian dream, while I was doing my studies and decided to try it out upon completion. I wanted to carve out my own space and take my own stance.
I was lucky my interview skills came in handy to give me a role in media. I recall my first interview being with a well-known male and his attempt to tell me that I should or could find better use of my time, rather than reporting. That didn’t stop me, but it made me think this difference in males and females in our community, is it ever going to change? Our community has been here for a century, when will respect by our own community be given to both males and females, equally?
Equality if fundamental to our religion, but its not followed. I am believer that it doesn’t matter how many times you do your prayers, your connection to the religion, the real meanings that can’t be quantified. We need to look deeper into the real meanings and not just go through the motions."