"The experiences of my life have shaped me as a Kaur and a woman, which for me... is one in the same. My focus has been healing and coming into my own. Which lends itself to thinking of modern Sikhi as simply being a good human. So this is what I gravitate towards.
Obstacles…yeah they make you become a stronger person. There are a lot of things that happen in our community. Things no one ever wants to mention. So many topics that no one talks about….like sexual abuse. Yet, the stats for them occurring are so high.
Shame is a huge part of why we won’t. Rather than facing things head on, believing the victim. Acknowledging that a relative or someone close to the family has abused their power relationship, these topics are brushed under the carpet. That leaves victims to feel shame and carve out their own healing.
For me, it was how do you move past the shame? For me, it was all about peeling back the layers of an onion. Getting to the root of the problem, allowing my emotional scars to show. When I negotiated this, it was then that I started to believe again. It was at that point I started to love myself again. That’s not to say I didn't have triggers or that interactions with men, any men didn’t take a toll on me. But even that, as time progressed and I got stronger, even that decreased.
I didn’t really know how to process things…my outlets of acting, modelling, and writing…these were my breathes of fresh air. I want(ed) to convey messages…meaningful stuff through these expressions of art. It was hard for me to vocalize, especially since my voice had already been shushed. These forms let me show parts of me, to heal myself, but also to spark something in others minds. Help them understand that healing can happen.
As a Kaur, there are so many expectations. Too many, unnecessarily. Rather than all these expectations, all this pressure, it would just make sense to be good women…good humans.
I believe we don’t have to look or dress a certain way…or be a certain way. My sole job as a Kaur is to be a good woman. There is no classification in my viewpoint. There should be no hierarchy, no judgement between Kaurs. There is no one way of being a Kaur…nothing is right or wrong. Everything is your own interpretation."