“Kaur and the concept is something I believe in strongly. My connection stemmed from the first eight years of my life, when I was exposed to Sikhi in a strong way. My family was lucky to connect to a religious community (sangat), and it changed our life. My parents never commanded that I should not cut my hair or eat meat. My choice to not eat meat was part of my own spiritual journey. From eight to 18 years old, I was involved in sangat by taking part in kirtan and seva. My biggest lessons were humility and faith and upon reflection, I have to say this has been a huge part of my operation up to today.
I believe Kaur-ness embodies deeply rooted values of culture, respect and family. Concepts like self respect, respect to elders, upholding a sense of honour are deeply engrained in me. I believe that there is a responsibility within Kaur's to believe in/express whatever they want, as long as they uphold themselves to these values.
I share and teach my son things that are extensions of Sikhi, like self respect, integrity, honour, respect to women and all others in the world. I named him Himat, which translates to strength and courage, and I felt it important to give him a strong traditional name. I do my best to expose him to the values and tools I believe in for a good upbringing. When he grows older, he has the right to make his own choices, but these values, I believe, will give him a good foundation.
I got married in my early 20’s for nine years and although that marriage gave me the gift of my son, I also lost a huge part of my religious side. Growing up, my parents were strict and so during my marriage, I got caught up in different experiences. It took me ten years to realize I had disconnected from my spiritual path.
Divorce happened and life continues on. I am learning from reflecting on my past marriage. It is not a challenge because I don’t resist change. I believe its part of my growth process. I took the last three years as an opportunity to pause, put things into perspective, and understand the parts of me that I had lost so I could recreate myself again. As a woman, I find I am creating myself, always. Being self aware, peeling away layers of what no longer works, and ultimately understanding how I want to contribute to the world. I’ve now come back to spirituality, and am passionate about expanding and embracing this. A part of the reason why I tag myself as a ‘Soulpreneur’.