"I believe being a Kaur means being someone who is loving, caring, and giving. For me its about being the the best person I can be; as a mom, a wife, daughter, and a member of society. I automatically connect being a Kaur with my identity because its been instilled in me since birth. My love for our language and culture has been passed down to me by both my paternal and maternal grandmothers. Both focused on speaking and learning Punjabi, knowing our history and Gurbani. Both also loved to share stories.
The two of them got along so well, they were really good friends. They were very similar in their personalities: loving, caring, and gentle. As strong, solid women they were focused on Gurbani and lived their lives as being good human beings. They reinforced that love and family were above everything else and that it was important to listen before speaking.
These philosophies are so simple, but as I have gotten older and become a mother they really make sense. I now feel that if you have done what you can to help others and have been the best person you can be, you have done your job. That it all will make a difference in the end.
I moved to Canada in grade three and could communicate a few English words here and there. So I took on the task to learn as much English as possible, and started off by reading simple children's books. I would tuck myself away in the corner of the library for hours on end and just read.
Its funny, when I think back to my grandparents and the sharing of stories, it makes me understand why I pursued nursing and then specialized in geriatric nursing. I really enjoy talking to people, listening to them unravel their tales, and being present with them. And what they share in return, it was truly an honour to hear. For them, they just wanted someone to listen, share, and spend time with.
When I became a mother, I wanted to impart my love of books with my daughter, so we have a bedtime routine where I read to her each night. I created a little library of sorts and would take simple, picture books and translate the words into Punjabi while I was reading. But I found there to be no easily accessible Punjabi books that looked at the world from a child's perspective. So I decided to write and publish one myself. I am still surprised about where motherhood and my history has taken me. My current book focuses on learning to count in Punjabi in a fun way for children. I think this is just the start for me and want to do more short story books in the future.”